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Breaking The Cycle Of Self-Betrayal
INTRODUCTION
Personal story and welcome
How the course is structured
The limits of this course, psychoeducation, and when to seek professional help
Week 1: A closer look at your attachment style and the impact of your upbringing
The childhood experiences that made it more likely for you to engage in self-betrayal
Your basic human need to love and be loved
Your caretaker or parents' response to the question, "Is it OK to be me?"
Your attachment style (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)
The influence of family, school, friends, and church on who you know yourself to be
Cultural and social pressures
Gender expectations and beauty standards
Your shadow beliefs and the lies you tell yourself
The things you do to "deserve" love
Week 2: Breaking up with perfectionism and procrastination
Part 1 The illusion of perfectionism
Perfectionism vs. high achieving
Your hidden motives for perfection (high-achievement, self-esteem, image, identity)
When exactly this exhausting behavior becomes a problem
Your inner judge and its unrealistic expectations
Tools for overcoming perfectionism: Imperfection and authenticity
Part 2: Understanding your chronic procrastination
Procrastination as a form for emotional regulation
Fear of failure and decision paralysis
Honoring your time and schedule
Defining your skillset and knowing when to delegate
Tools to help cultivate your internal motivation
Week 3: Grounding skills for emotional bypassing and making peace with your inner people-pleaser
Part 1 The gift of your emotions
The difference between emotions and feelings
The subconscious reasons why you avoid your "negative" or shadow emotions
Symptoms of toxic positivity and the dangers of denying your own reality
Using your emotions as a useful life compass
Tools for self-soothing and regulating
Part 2 Break free from people-pleasing
Your stories and your inner child
How this pattern keeps you safe… and small
People pleasing in your family, dating, friendships, and work relationships
Creating practical and healthy boundaries
Perspective shifts + tools to work through these patterns
Week 4: Releasing your controlling behaviors and ending the loop of overextension
Part 1: Control and the false sense of security
Understanding your need to be in constant control
What you can and cannot control
Releasing your attachment and making peace with the outcome
Softening rigid boundaries and rules that actually push people away
Mantras and short meditation for ease and release
Part 2 Stop overextending yourself in the name of "success"
The core beliefs of people who overextend and how to shift them
The truth behind hustle culture, busyness and productivity
Redefining success: Purposeful work, passion, and meaningful vision
Permission to rest: Training your body to relax (parasympathetic response)
Week 5: Healing your codependency and perpetual caregiving patterns
Your family of origin and your household thermostat
Empathic vs enabler: Which one are you?
Manifestations of enmeshment and lack of boundaries
Spot the red flags and stop accepting breadcrumbs
The difference between healthy and toxic relationship dynamics
Giving yourself the care you give to others: Making time for your needs
Building interdependence in your relationships
Recommended books and podcast shows
Week 6: Reparenting yourself and creating thriving interpersonal relationships
Understanding what secure parents provide
Self-exploration and self-expression
Becoming the caretaker you never had
Practicing self compassion
Establishing REAL healthy habits: Body respect + mindful eating
Connecting to your inner child through visualization and journaling
Communicating your needs to self and others
Vulnerability and cultivating intimacy in our relationships
BONUS
Vows and commitment to self ceremony
Procrastination as a form for emotional regulation
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